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Introverted Feeling Fi (incl Bonus Values Exercise!)

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You are using introverted Feeling or Fi when you're deciding whether you like or dislike something. When you're running something past your internal set of values. When you're calibrating your moral compass. Thinking about our vocalizing your sense of deeply held beliefs and universal truth.

ISFP
ISFP
INFP
INFP

People with a dominant Fi function cannot not operate from a sense of congruence. They may not force others to see the world in the same way, and theymay not speak up about something if it's not deemed worth it. But if it is, they may surprise you, and you will notice when you violate their values.

Expats using Fi to decide on an assignment may need time to feel through all the aspects and how they align with what is important to them. "Are you willing to accept a break in your career to support that of your partner? What difference is the international experience going to make to your life? Is it worth it?" It is helpful here to allow the necessary time to align universal themes like how the relocation process is supported or how the new country has been portrayed in the media lately, with individual values like "will I be able to express myself freely and authentically in the new country?"

If Fi is in a different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Fi can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

Introverted Feeling Fi
Introverted Feeling Fi

If you'd like to practice your Fi skills, do a values exercise to see what's important to you. Divise an action plan of how you can bring more of those values into your life through your thoughts and actions.

For example:

Out of the following list, select those values which according to your own definition of the word most accurately reflect what is important to you. If you don’t see your value on the list, please add it.

Achievement

Adventure

Autonomy

Caring

Change

Competition

Community

Consistency

Cooperation

Creativity

Family

Financial Security

Freedom

Harmony

Impact

Inner Peace

Leisure

Loyalty

Power

Precision

Profit

Publicity

Responsibility

Recognition

Social Status

Stability

Spirituality

Technology

Time

Wisdom

Note your Top 10 values in no particular order.

1.

2.

3.

4.

5.

6.

7.

8.

9.

10.

Using the numbers from the list above, compare each value to every other value. In each cell of the table below, circle the number of the value that feels more aligned with who you believe you are.

Example:

1. Harmony

2. Financial Security

3. Family

4. Autonomy

5. ...

Between Harmony and Financial Security, Harmony is more important - circle 1.

Between Harmony and Family, Family is more important - circle 3.

Between Harmony and Autonomy, Harmony is more important - circle 1 again.

Etc.

Values Grid
Values Grid

Count the number of times each number is circled. The value with the highest number of circles is your top priority, subsequent lower numbers of circles represent values of subsequently lower importance.

This will give you your Top 10 values in order of your priority.

If any of your values have the same number of circles, go back to the grid and find the box where you compared them. The number you circles in that box is the higher ranking value.

Start with your top 3 or top 5 and ask yourself: how are your daily values reflecting your values? How aligned is your life with them? If family is coming out on top, how many times a week do you have dinner together? When was the last time you visited your parents?

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Happy Valentine's Day! Extraverted Feeling Fe

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You'reusing extraverted Feeling or Fe when you're tuning into the people around you. When you're picking up their vibe. When you're validating them, empathizing emotionally, knowing how they feel and what they're going through. When you're creating harmony where there is none.

ESFJ
ESFJ
ENFJ
ENFJ

People with a dominant Fe function cannot not engage, connect, and feel with other people. They are quick to praise and reassure, knowing what to say to make people feel better, and taking care of others.

Expats using Fe to decide on an assignment are likely to take family members feelings into account. Since international relocation is a complex process, it may be challenging to please everybody, which may cause stress. To reduce conflict, dominant Fe may tend to set their own needs lower on the list of priorities. It is helpful here to recognize that every opinion counts, and that taking care of others is easiest when it comes from a place of abundance.

If Fe is in a different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Fe can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

Extraverted Feeling Fe
Extraverted Feeling Fe

If you'd like to practice your Fe skills, observe the people around you. Is anyone looking lost where you could offer to give directions? Can you find valid arguments in opposing points of view and help mediate between e.g. colleagues or friends? Who's been feeling down lately that you could cheer up with some personal attention, listening to their woes, and providing encouraging feedback?

PS: I swear I didn't plan it this way, but having Fe show up on Valentine's... come on! Talk about serendipity. :-) Here's to loving yourself, and the one you're with. xx

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Introverted Thinking Ti

Ti doodle You're using introverted Thinking or Ti when you're deeply analyzing something. When you're precisely naming and categorizing thoughts and ideas. When you're thinking in models, frameworks, and principles. When you're reaching conclusions while detaching yourself from outside input.

ISTP INTPPeople with Ti as their dominant function cannot not analyze. They like to know how things work, being able to precisely describe their essence, and applying logical principles.

Expats using Ti to decide on an assignment are likely to take an objective, detached point-of-view. They are able to appreciate the complexity and may take time to examine the offer from multiple angles, with the aim of coming to the most accurate decision. It is helpful here to factor in emotional concerns for family members and how the relocation will affect the family system.

If Ti is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Ti can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

introverted thinking ti

If you'd like to practice your Ti skills, find an idea or a theory or a system that interests you and take it apart into tiny little pieces. Dig deep. Be objective. Until you understand how the pieces fit together and are able to extrapolate the underlying principle. Some types may find Sudoku a good exercise as well.

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Extraverted Thinking Te

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You're using extraverted Thinking or Te when you're organizing thoughts or things. When you're being effective and efficient. When you use systems and sequences to help you do your work. When you reach conclusions easily and objectively. When you plan for success, and notice if something isn't in order. 

ESTJ
ESTJ
ENTJ
ENTJ

For people with Te as their dominant function, they cannot not structure their inner and outer environment. They are likely to take charge, supporting their decisions with logical facts and leaving personal or subjective feelings at the door.

Expats using Te to decide on an assignment are likely to trust factual data over personal feelings, and may rush to conclusions. Since an international relocation is a complex decision with many factors, it is helpful to take time thinking through various angles and consider the impact on all family members. An attractive relo package in the short term may not compensate a career break for your spouse in the long run.

If Te is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Te can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

extraverted Thinking Te
extraverted Thinking Te

If you'd like to practice your Te skills, start by using tools like step-by-step checklists, your calendar, or Excel spreadsheets. Focus on objective arguments, facts, and data when presenting information and making decisions. Pay attention to specific words those around you use. Try finding a place for everything and keeping everything in its place, e.g. starting with your desk.

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Introverted Intuiting Ni

Ni doodle You are using introverted Intuiting or Ni when you're envisioning the future. You may experience flashes of insight and just knowing what's going to happen. Those images come from inside, you may not know how you know, but you know. You have a certainty about their truth and validity. According to Jung, this is when you're tapping into the collective unconscious and make good use of universal symbols.

In a recent webinar, Linda guided us through a little meditation: close your eyes and think of a small problem you have. Not a big one, just a little thing. See it there in front of you. Now take yourself up to the 10,000 feet perspective and see the solution to your small issue appear. Maybe it'll arrive through a door, maybe you put your question in an envelope, send it away, and another envelope comes back to you with the answer in it. That's Ni. It's hard to make it happen, but when you let go of a tight control grip, disengage, it might come more easily.

INTJ INFJFor people with Ni as their dominant function, they cannot ignore these insights. They are likely to see how events will play out and then work backwards to make it happen, or take corrective measures.

Expats preparing for an assignment using Ni are likely to trust their vision of what it is going to be like abroad, anticipating potential challenges. Since an international relocation is a very uncertain process with many variables, this may lead to stress and anxiety. It is helpful here to be self-aware and recognize when an image is coming out of a place of fear or of abundance. Allow yourself some rest away from outside influences to help the flow from that inner voice.

If Ni is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Ni can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

Introverted Intuiting Ni

If you'd like to practice your Ni skills, meditate. Or pray. Take time to be still, put some earplugs in, turn off the TV, the laptop, put the phone on mute - no vibrate. And listen. Keep track of insights you've had that worked out the way you thought they would to help train your brain trust those intuitions.

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Extraverted Intuiting Ne

Ne doodle You use extraverted Intuiting or Ne when you're brainstorming. When you're projecting ideas into the future. When interpreting alternative meanings and seeing options. When finding commonalities among those options. "We have a pot of rice, what could we do with it? Oh, I know, we could add beans, corn, and cilantro and have a Mexican fiesta! Or, we have brokkoli and thai paste, if we get some coconut milk, we could have a thai curry. That reminds me, when we go to the store, we need to get toothpaste and a screwdriver. I want to get started on that arts project. We can do it together after dinner!"

ENTP ENFPFor people with Ne as their dominant function, they cannot not see -and want to explore- potential possibilities. Virtually anything you say will trigger a whole host of connections between seemingly unrelated items, and the opportunities they hold. Expats preparing for an assignment using Ne are likely to imagine all the possibilities they are going to have in the new country, and what they'll be able to do and accomplish.

If Ne is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Ne can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

Extraverted Intuiting Ne

If you'd like to practice your Ne skills, take some time to brainstorm up ideas without censoring yourself. Take five pieces of unrelated news headlines and try to find a connection. Play "Six degrees of Kevin Bacon".

Repeat the exercise to train your brain and establish new neuronal pathways.

Brain on NePS: Here's what your brain, or at least the upper area of the neocortex looks like on Ne: it's like a Christmas tree lighting up, all areas firing more or less simultaneously. Your brain can also show this pattern for non-Ne activities: when you're drunk. :-)

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Introverted Sensing Si

Si doodle You use introverted Sensing or Si when you're reviewing the past. When you're remembering the songs that were playing and the dress you were wearing at prom. When you are right back on your grandfather's lap as he tells you a good night story. When you know exactly who first brought that Christmas tree ornament into the house and how it looked on the tree. When your colleagues ask you how to do the inventory, and you show them how you did it last year. And when they tell you the results you recall exactly what the difference is.

ISFJ ISTJFor people with Si as their dominant function, they cannot not remember. Virtually anything you say will trigger a catalog of details and images of what happened before, and how it influences the now. Sometimes even how it could be carried into the future, to carry on the tradition.

Expats preparing for an assignment using Si are likely to mentally review everything they already know about the country they're moving to. Things they may have read in the news, heard on TV, or have been told by friends and family. Since the news may be one-sided, it may help to establish another set of references by learning about the country from different sources, like expat blogs or travel guides. You might also want to observe and learn from an expat who has successfully relocated and could serve as a role model to emulate.

If Si is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi. Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Si can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how it shows up for you.

Introverted Sensing Si OverviewIf you'd like to practice your Si skills, take some time to travel back in time. If you need help, you can watch a family movie, thumb through the old photo albums, or sit with your elders and listen to their stories. Try to remember where you were exactly at any given time, what the mood was like, what the newspaper headlines were that day or week or month.

Repeat the exercise in a month and try to remember at least the same amount of details about the same event.

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Extraverted Sensing Se

Se doodle You use extraverted Sensing or Se when you're paying attention to your surroundings. When you're noticing how the warm breeze plays with the hairs on your bare forearm. When you close your eyes to the sun and feel the heat on your face. When you smell freshly-baked bread just out of the oven and start salivating. When you take a bite of that bread and feel the warm dough melt on your tongue. When you see your lover, fly into his arms, and kiss him. When you notice the different shades of green in an autumn forest or the colorful plumage of a colibri. It's experiencing and being fully present in the moment.

ESFP ESTPFor people with Se as their dominant function, it's a given: they cannot not pay attention to what's happening around them.

Expats preparing for an assignment using Se are likely to want to travel for a look-see trip before making up their minds. Companies may offer this for couples to explore potential living neighborhoods or schools for the children. If that's not an option, you might like to try a restaurant serving food from the country you're moving to, renting a movie made or set there, or meeting up with one of that country's nationals, e.g. at an Internations meeting or on campus of a university near you.

If Se is in different positions in your type dynamics, below is an overview pieced together with only a few items taken from Understanding Yourself and Others, An Introduction to the Personality Type Code, by Linda V. Berens and Dario Nardi.

Let me say this again to be very clear: the description of how Se can be expressed in the different positions is not exhaustive and only meant to give you an overview. I would love to have you comment below how Se shows up for you.

Extraverted Sensing Se OverviewIf you'd like to practice your Se skills, pay more conscious attention to the facts and people in your environment.

For example, how many gas stations do you pass on your way to work? How are you choosing the clothes you will wear tomorrow? When was the last time you had a massage and truly felt your body?

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